“bittersweet-love”
October 2010
November 2010
Topic 1: What is love
Thursday, October 21, 2010 || 6:30 AM
'WHAT IS LOVE'
This is the most difficult question in the world as different people have different definition. Some common definition are:
Love is blind
Love is giving in
Love is patient
Love is kind
Love is not boastful
There are much more definition of love but before we begin, i would like to state a few different types of love.
. Friendship love - love and bonds between friends, helping each other when in need.
. Family love - bond tied together by blood. Love and Concern wanting nothing in return.
. Childhood love - Innocent & pure, thinking only about the present and live as day passes by.
. Puppy love - Infatuation which causes fast heartbeat & perspiring profusely
. Marrige love - Love that think of the future, to create a family together, a huge responsibility
. True love - Doesnt matter if 2 party stays together. As long as the heart link & each other is happy its all that matter.
Now, yourself this question, 'What is love to me'.
Love is never heart beating fast or perspiring profusely. In fact when your heart beat faster and you start to perspire profusely, you are in a state of infatuation.
Infatuation means 'short term affection to someone' & it happens when you are attracted to him/her by the look, certain actions or a word. Infatuation last from day to as long as years. In another words, the love of your life might be just an infatuation.
To me, love is quarrelling & discussing. Is a relationship without any quarrel consider long-lasting? The answer is NO! Quarrels happens when 2 party have different opinion & in love what matter most is to BE YOURSELF WITH NO PRETENTIOUS. Giving in will only cause the relationship to worsen. By this, i dont mean that you should not give in to each other. What i meant is that giving in is necessary when it comes to small problems like, 'what should we eat for dinner' / 'what movie to watch' or 'where to go'. However when it comes to important problems which have to do with your beliefs, dignity and philosophy it is best to talk it out and this is when discuss comes in.
Discussion in love means solving ! You need 2 hand to make a clap. If the relationship is ruled by an individual, is it still love & will you still gain happiness in a relationship whereby you have no said? I seriously doubt so.
Guys/Girls, before you begin in a relationship, ask yourself carefully if this is love & measure it with the 'in love' factor below:
(a) is he always on your mind or (b) do you only think of him when you have nothing to do
(a) when he playing with a girl, do you feel angry (b) sad or (c) jealous
(a) if he is not around, do you search for him or (b) will you ask his friend what happen
(a) when he feels sad, do you feel sad too or (b) you asking him what happen
(a) when he say HI to you, do you smile and say nothing or (b) you say hi back immediately
asnwer this 5 questions truefully & it might help you answer the question to your heart.
If you have any problems, just ask me :D I will definitely try my best to help you solve it.
love,
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