“bittersweet-love”

October 2010 November 2010

In a relationship, its not always the guy that has the say, sometimes its the girl. There's definitely no right or wrong to who has the say. The only question is, which is more appropriate. This link down to what I'm going to talk about today, big girl;small man or big man;small girl !


Big girl; small man

The scenario of a big girl; small man relationship;

• girl decides everything from what to eat to where can you go
• during quarrels, girl say shut up, walk away and feel nothing while guys feel sad over what happen
• girl sometimes insists to pay & refuse to accept money from guy
• guy initiate an outing but girl decide if the outing is OK or should be cancel

Big man; small girl

• guy decides everything from what to eat to what you can wear
• during quarrels, girl shut up, head down & sob while guys feel nothing and just keep scolding the girl
• guy pay for everything from food to clothing
• girl initiate an outing but guydecide if the outing is OK or should be cancel

There's so many so many other factors and scenario but my point here is not to state out all the scenario. The purpose of this post is to help guys and girls realise their position in the relationship and how should they react or change to make the relationship long-lasting.



GUY

All guys are full of pride, they like receiving presents but they hate it when ppl call them 'small man'. Guys are all independent creatures & they like to roam about. Don't restrict a guy, in fact, NEVER RESTRICT THEM! Sometimes a girl choose to pay for food and movie and refuse to accept the money their boyfriend gave for his share. Yes, you did it out of love, afraid that he might not have enough money for himself, afraid that he might starve. But NO, you don't understand that what you did is wrong.

When a guy give you money for his share, accept it. refusing to accept just shows that you look down on him. In fact, as time goes by, he feels inferior. Guys are really smart creatures. They will only say and do something which is within their ability. So next time a guy say, 'lets have buffet', you say, 'OKAY'!

Its is not a MUST for a guy to pay for his girlfriend. So girls, don't take it for granted if you boyfriend pay for you. They did it because they are being a nice gentleman. In a relationship, money should not be a subject. It is always best for couples to give in and pay at different time. By this, i meant, if your boyfriend pay for dinner then maybe the girl can pay for the movie. Its a vice versa thing.


GIRLS

yes, we love presents but that doesn't mean we are materialistic. We don't need to have a LV bag or a Mango dress. Presents means sincere to us. In another word, make something yourself ! guys and girls are very different when it comes to present. girls receive a present & she thinks about the process of how the guy get the present. But guy, they receive a present and only see the end product. Thats the differences between man & woman !

Girls dont mind being a 'small woman'. In fact, if we can would like to remain a small woman. Girls really like it when a guy behave like a man. When i say man, i mean, he makes decision/protect us girl & stay cool when things happen. They only time we become big woman is when we think that the guy is incapable of protecting himself.

SO GUYS, GET THE FACTS! ACT LIKE A MAN & YOU WILL WIN YOUR LADY.
& GIRLS, GET THE FACTS! STOP ACTING TOUGH, BE A SMALL LADY TO YOUR BIG MAN(:

tattas, hope i make sense in this post :D


that's all,
love,
bittersweet

In order to get along well, couples, you have to master the technique of giving in and taking.